Non-monogamous

I’m not monogamous by heart. I love everyone and for most of my sexual life, I shared it with a lot of different people. My relationships online and in person were just as affectionate and caring. I had friends, occasionally I did naughty things with them and I got at least the same sexual high from sex online as I did in person.

However, I’m practicing monogamy right now. It isn’t because of me, but in general, life. Fluffy used to be poly, but after her first marriage, she drifted away from it. She is uncomfortable with the idea of me having sex with others–even online sets off the hairs on the back of her head. She is allowed to look through my emails whenever she asks and occasionally she’ll point to a hot-and-heavy conversation and ask me to stop it.

I’ll admit, I don’t like being told to stop, but when I married (or whatever you want to call it, it is legal here in Iowa now) her, I did promise my heart to her. And, she will probably always be my First Wife for a lack of a better word. Since she is my primary, the other relationships have to circle around it.

There are a lot of different forms of non-monogamy. I found this really cool graphic that shows a lot of different ones, plus it has a great sense of humor. It encompasses what Fluffy and I used to be, what we occasionally fantasize about becoming again, and what I am now.

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Yeah, but it is a great little picture that has bits of humor all over the place.

http://xkcd.com/ has a neat link (somewhere in the thousand strips) about a book on creating infographics like that. I love the idea, but haven’t quite picked up the book. It’s on my overloaded Amazon wishlist still.